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2fs - 2008-07-16 16:34:11
"There was a third one but I forgot it! So that's good": Not thinking of Instant Party - Just Add Me before Mel Torme did so you could use it for one of your own titles?
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Editrix - 2008-07-16 16:54:49
The most beneficial application of future regret for me is using it to motivate to do something -- the most common being to go see a show when I'm tired. The thought of regretting that I missed something great has been enough to motivate me to leave the house even when I think I don't want to.
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Paula - 2008-07-16 17:16:21
2fs: that, and Totally Buble
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chris - 2008-07-16 18:06:47
I think regret is a wonderful tool in helping to make better decisions. Over time I would like to think I regret less, cause I learn from the past.
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grigorss - 2008-07-16 18:20:06
It would be interesting to have a brain not "wired for regret" -- I'm wondering who I could contract to provide such a service?
On the other hand, maybe you've just not done enough things flat-out the wrong way to acquire much regret yet -- don't despair; there's always time to mes things up down the road...
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Paula - 2008-07-16 18:44:48
Oh, I have plenty of plain ol' angst, fear, guilt, shame, and anxiety, and some regret. What I'm not wired for is using future regret as an inhibitor or motivator in the present. It's neither good nor bad, it's just how I roll.
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Blue Eyes - 2008-07-16 23:57:04
Regrets? I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention. I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption.
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MacGRegor - 2008-07-17 00:07:09
There have been times when I should have exercised some of that pay in advance regret and I'd like to say that's not the case but hey... I knew better and did it anyway. And have benefited from some of these lapses of discretion also. Regret is a strange beast for sure. I flip flop like a politician on some things about my history... too late to change though.
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Bob - 2008-07-17 04:08:01
I regret reading your blog tonight, cuz now I'm regrettably curious about a point in it at which I ain't got no idea what you are referring to, and yet, would like to, were that not regrettably nosey. (A "regret" which doesn't have to do with shame but rather with an aversion to even benign gnawing. And, whereas the last thing I'd ever wish upon myself is "independence from yearning", from friendly gnawing I could maybe get with.)
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Paula - 2008-07-17 14:59:43
Oh, the drama that precipitated my leaving NC? It's not a drama in the sense of it being interesting or exciting, more like I left school for non-academic reasons.
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Bob - 2008-07-17 22:57:58
Oh sure.
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Dana - 2008-07-18 02:16:10
I guess the Butthole Surfers were right when they said that it's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't done, although I'm not sure if I'd go along with their subsequent recommendation to be sure to tell my mother "Satan! Satan! Satan!"
Um, that's the first thing that always pops into my head when I hear the word "regret."
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Bob - 2008-07-18 04:05:28
I always thought the "Satan! Satan! Satan!" part was benign, but that what preceded it was not good practical advice. Cuz after all, just because you terribly regret not having done something does not rule out that it would have had horrible, not-well-anticipated consequences, had you done it... whereas something that you actively regret the horrible real world consequences of is not better just for at least having been done. (...Gibby is / A pied piper / Gibby is / A pied piper / Gibby is....)
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Paula - 2008-07-18 04:24:37
just because you terribly regret not having done something...
That is a great point, and well expressed.
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jonder - 2008-07-21 14:17:57
I regret that I never saw the Butthole Surfers in their heyday.
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